Making Eye Contact And Flirtation
The eyes are one of the most important tools for women when they flirt. It’s the principal means of nonverbal communication. Before a woman and a man have even formally met, the eyes help establish contact and interest. Good, strong eye contact can influence whether a man makes a move. Weak eye contact may drive him away or cause him to lose interest.
Men notice eye contact either subconsciously or consciously because they believe it to be a real barometer of a woman’s intentions. They might thing that a woman can say nice things that are not true, but that the eyes are always telling the truth. A woman can use this to her advantage by managing the expressions conveyed by her eyes.
One of the ways a woman can indicate lack of interest is to look away from a man. However, if she looks away inadvertently, perhaps out of nervousness, that can be misinterpreted by the man who thinks its a sign of disinterest. A woman must control what and how she looks at everything when speaking with a man. If she finds him attractive, she should make sure to focus her gaze on him. If she finds him repulsive, she should look away more often than not.
Good eye contact does not mean staring with unrelenting intensity. Behavioral psychologists have discovered that a one part to three mix of looking at the man and looking away from the man was optimal in balancing signals of interest and uncomfortable staring. It turns out that men can be turned off or be disturbed out by an overly focused gaze. Women understand this well too: a guy who can’t turn away may be charming for a few moments but then becomes somewhat creepy.
Paul Ekman, the famous psychologist, has found that tiny microexpressions near the edges of the eye can give away whether a woman is really smiling or not. Some sensitive men probably read into these signals and make decisions based on them. If the smile is not genuine enough, they may be turned off. If the smile and the eyes match in signals, they may make extra effort to pick up the woman. Conversely, a woman may use this to her advantage. If she’s not interested in a woman, she can generate a false half smile without the correct microexpression of the eye to help emphasize her disinterest.
Proper make-up on the eyes will also be essential in helping a woman use them effectively. Excessive mascara or eye shadow can distract the way a man interprets a woman’s subtle flirting signals. Lack of make-up, on the other hand, can draw insufficient attention to a woman’s eyes.
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- Posted in Dating on February 17th, 2010



