Opening Up: The Secrets Of An Honest Relationship
Being able to communicate openly is the key to a lasting and happy relationship. But in so many cases it is difficult or even impossible to persuade a man to talk about their feelings, fears and needs. For women this seems very easy to do but men are a different story. If you have this problem and are unable to get the information you need from your partner, it’s possible you need to try some new ideas.
Choose when to approach
Men are more comfortable expressing themselves when they’re don’t feel like they’re being pressed to talk. If he’s enjoying himself, he might be relaxed enough to really open up. That could be after you’ve played a sport together, enjoyed a wonderful meal, made love, etc.
Pick the right time
You don’t want to blow a chance just because you lost your patience. Be sensitive to when it is a good time to talk and be careful not to approach when your partner is tired or preoccupied.
Provide a personal example
If you are able to talk about topics that are very personal to you, it will help your partner see that it’s not that bad and perhaps inspire him to act in a similar fashion. Share with him your private desires and fears and soon enough he is likely to share his with you.
Don’t look back
Men really don’t enjoy lingering on the same, sore topic. If he did something to hurt or offend you and he said he’s sorry, then it’s probably best to accept it and move on.
Be careful with your response
If your man is finally opening up, allow him to say whatever he feels. If he’s got what you’d call a “wacky idea,” try to avoid picking it apart. A lot of people, especially men, have “big dreams” that they probably know are just that: dreams…like learning how to fly or living in another country. In reality, there’s no harm in dreaming.
Stay attentive
Once your partner has opened up it is crucial to support that. In most cases is will be very discouraging for him if you get distracted. So make sure to tune off that Blackberry and be attentive and in the moment. Let him speak for himself and try not to jump in to complete his sentences.
Thank you so much for reading. I wish you all the best!
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- Posted in Divorce on November 30th, 2009




